On table manners

   I met a guy in my local the other day and we got to talking,conversation was flowing,he was reasonably attractive and he was a banker.so as we were leaving we exchanged numbers,and chatted for a while before finally arranging to meet.i was so hopeful as I'd been single for a while and he had most of the qualities i look for in a man.
   The first tip off should have been his choice of location,which was a noisy crowded restaurant opposite Jamia mall.But hey we met in a local so I couldn't really complain.so we met up,got a seat and proceeded to order.He ordered roast potatoes,chicken and coleslaw in that deep accented voice if his and in my head i was like"weuwe!",the food came and we proceeded to dig in.Shock on me when he grabbed the potatoes which were already in quarters(he didn't even wait for maji to wash his hands) and proceeded to mash them like you would Ugali,then he took some french beans mixed with the potatoes and mashed them some more all the while the soup is dripping down his hands.He then he popped the whole soggy mixture into his mouth,as he continues with whatever story he was telling me,He then grabs the chicken leg and opens his mouth wide to take a bite,mind you he hasn't swallowed the previous mixture!!.heeeee!!I was shocked,fascinated and disgusted all at the same time!My face must have shown a bit of what I was feeling and plus at this point I was just staring at him,my appetite had gone out of the window.So he asks me,'kwani you've never seen anyone eating with their hands?'like he was doing the most normal thing in the world!!!
  Needless to say,that was the first and last date and I changed my local.What on earth?I wonder how he deals with his clients when he has to take them for lunch or something!!!
  We take this things for granted that everyone was taught basic table skills like not talking with food in your mouth or elbows of the table. I have now officially added this as a requirement for my potential.Must have good table manners!!!!

Is sex more important than a conversation

I've been having an ongoing debate with a guy I've been seeing(by this i mean going out for dinner,drinks and a movie once or twice)on whether it was time to take things to the next level or not.The thing is am at a stage in my life,where if I feel like we aren't connecting on a very basic level,if we cant have a basic conversation,then we haven't established enough intimacy to get together in such a personal way.Back to this guy lets call him Mr M.every time we would go out and more often than not I would go home pissed because of all the pressure he would heap on me to go to his house.We couldn't even watch a movie in peace without him trying to get all busy with me(refer to my blog on licking ears).
 It  reached a point where he got so insistent that I began to doubt myself and my decision.But then I got an epiphany and realized that I was right,you ought to be able to sit down with your potential lover and have a random conversation on anything under the sun.You ought to know your potential lover so well that one look at their face and you can almost tell what they are thinking,you can tell what their mood is.You need to establish a level of caring and intimacy with your potential lover before you take it to the next level,kwanza with all the diseases flying around....Ama?